There is a subtle mystery to the idea of being grateful. Those who are truly successful and live lives of lasting richness understand this mystery and apply it every day. In turn, they carry with them an overflowing heart and a feeling of deep, abiding happiness.
The path of gratitude is available to everyone that takes the time to find it. But what is gratitude?
Gratitude is defined as, Ôthe quality or feeling of being grateful or thankfulÕ. Perhaps though, Melodie Beattie describes it best in her words below:
ÔGratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns chaos into order, confusion into clarity and denial into acceptance,…. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.Õ
To be truly grateful is a fundamental part of creating an amazing life. Everything in the world can begin and end with being thankful. It is a mindset that, when adopted, will keep your heart filled with happiness and your Ôcup half fullÕ. There is a cost however to being grateful and that is the cost of your time.
Making time each day to reflect on the gifts you have in your life is the fastest way to create an abundance mindset.The trick is to find something that you truly feel grateful for and then to revisit that feeling of gratitude each day. This in turn will give you the strength and confidence you need to overcome the obstacles between you and your goals.
For example, you may have a goal to fit into a certain size of pants or dress. A typical challenge around losing weight is negative self talk. You can use gratitude to combat negative self talk by first recognizing that you have been blessed with a body that despite the extra weight, is still keeping you strong.Your body is just waiting for you to emotionall and mentally shift into a higher level of health and fitness. When you are ready, it will respond to your new commands and transform itself into the new image you hold for it. So, when you next start playing the Ônegative self talkÕ tape see if you can replace it with words and feelings that reflect the deep sense of gratitude you have for your body.
As the challenges and realities of life take hold, gratitude can be a virtue to cling to in those moments of deepest sorrow. Everyone will inevitably at some time experience death, illness or divorce. It’s how we choose to handle these difficult circumstances that will determine our ability to move through them.
Take divorce for example. Approximately 50% of the population will go through a divorce.Think about someone you know of who is divorced or is considering leaving their partner. Now think about how that person is choosing to handle the divorce. Are they bitter and angry? Are they lashing out at their partner?
Or, have they taken the high road and are quietly going about their business, advocating for themselves without hurting anyone around them. Have they chosen to be grateful for the time they were happy?Perhaps they have discovered the ability to be grateful for the children that came from the marriage. They may be grateful for the experience of learning more about themselves and for discovering whatÕs most important to them.
If you take the time to look deeply into something, you can usually discover one or two areas for which to be grateful. Clearly, finding gratitude isnÕt always easy but it is a worthwhile endeavor.
At the most basic level, you can start with stating just two or three things each day for which you are grateful. Need help getting started?
How about:
1. Being able to take a deep breath
2. Being able to see the sun rise and set
2. Being able to learn and make different choices
It takes only a moment of reflection to experience gratitude for things like the ability to hear, to touch, to give and receive hugs, a warm house, a safe home, a full stomach, pets, family and friends.
Just imagine how youÕd feel if you didnÕt have these blessings in your life!
Even on the most difficult of days take just a few minutes to give thanks for the gifts in your life. In giving thanks you will be strengthening your sense of abundance.This in turn will allow you to see more options for happiness and give you the awareness to make other choices.
A spirit of Gratitude is an often overlooked part of creating a life of happiness and greatness. Apply the mystery of Gratitude and youÕll find it turns the everyday aspects of life into experiences of richness and joy.